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Manage Your Career Like a Mercenary

Manage Your Career Like a Mercenary

There was a time when the key to career advancement was simply being great at your job, working harder than others, and waiting for the right opportunities to pop up. And while it is still important to do a great job and work hard, it just isn’t enough to ensure career advancement. Not if you want you to achieve “high trajectory” career progress and above average income.

In today’s world there are fewer advancement opportunities and more qualified people competing for every great job. Bonus dollars are limited so you have to “compete” with your peers to ensure that you maximize bonus income potential. Even survival is a competition – who gets laid off and who stays – is often determined by much more than just who is doing the best job. Read more

When Life Gives You Lemons

When Life Gives You Lemons

Every so often an especially insightful book prompts me to reflect on or change my behavior, attitudes or both. Years ago, after reading “Type A Behavior and Your Heart” by two San Francisco cardiologists, Dr. Meyer Friedman and Dr. Ray H. Rosenman, I learned to reduce stress and hostility by cramming less into my days and allowing adequate time to accomplish whatever I had to do.

I just read another book, newly published, that could help many of us cope with life’s inevitable obstacles. It is “The Gift of Adversity,” by Dr. Norman E. Rosenthal, 63, the psychiatrist who first described seasonal affective disorder and how to treat it with light. Read more

Are You Holding Yourself Back From Success?

In an increasingly fast-paced world, there’s more pressure than ever to be your most successful self. While many of us think we are doing all we can to get there, there are several things holding us back that are easy to miss. Whether it’s bad habits, flaws in our thinking, or lack of bravery, it’s easy to get comfortable with where you are and forget where you’re trying to go. Whether you’re pursuing new professional heights or a well-rounded, emotional view of success, avoiding these pitfalls can make all the difference in your road to success. Read more

How Do You Explain Your Failures? It Matters More Than You Think

After her lack luster performance in the free skate four years ago in Vancouver, Carolina Kostner left the free ice with her head clutched between her arms. “I thought I would stop skating,” she said. “I thought that was my end.”

But it wasn’t. Despite her bitter disappointment at the time, she chose to press on. “The hard times make you understand what you really want,” she later said. and I’m really glad that I continued and am honored to have experienced everything that I have in the past years.” Read more

The Negative Genie Appears

This is a guest post from Jim Thomas, the “Transition Guru.”

Let us assume you are in transition and would like to achieve all your goals for employment and a very successful career. Better yet, how about having every wish we wanted become reality. Well, what if a Genie appeared and granted every wish we asked? One thing I think we would all agree to— all of our wishes would be positive requests. I do not think that anyone would wish for bad health, to be poor or without wealth and prosperity, or no friends or loved ones in our lives. I could go on but I think you get the point. All of our wishes would be positive. However, if there was a positive Genie ready to grant our wishes, the opposite must exist.  Read more

Spot a Bad Boss During the Job Interview

When a friend told Jessica Dean about a hot startup looking for a director of business development, she forwarded her résumé. The New York-based company offered a new smartphone app that sounded innovative. Unfortunately, the owner’s lack of professionalism raised red flags during the interview. He made lofty promises about company plans, used profane language, and overstated his qualifications. Ms. Dean took the job because her friend assured her that the owner—a friend of her friend’s—would be a good boss.

The problems started right away. The owner didn’t trust her, so would leave late-night voice mails asking if she’d completed her projects. “Even my mother didn’t care for him when she met him,” says Ms. Dean, who quit after six months. Read more